i make a distinction between gossip and speaking with my informal families. even tho i honor what the Toltec say about the problem of gossiping. If i am with my informal families, for instance, then when i am speaking with them it is not "gossip" it is important, even crucial communication. It is care. It is care seeking to enhance, since i realize the value.

Thinking about this, i have to wonder if "gossip" is meaningful communication in seed.

--Since there is that intuitive inclination to *want* to speak (caring to speak as opposed to *not giving a flying fu--*). Yet in the context of being brought up in a society which keeps its members superficially-oriented (and thus separated--as much as possible-- from our powers), there has been a poisoning effect, thanks to domestication.

...so with this in mind, i tend to want to *complement* gossiping by adding to it in meaningful ways; such as possibly pointing out that we are making communities amongst each other *whenever we want*; and the more heavenish we put in, the more heavenish may well reflect back. (i use the word "heavenish" in the broadest sense of the word, not controlled by dogma, but by our individual inclinations)

So, i wonder about how to inspire within the gossipers a movement (or "arting") away from putting poison in (a "normal" reflection of we programmed in the context of alienation war-minded society), and instead depositing heavenish kinds of inputs; or at least authenticity. Towards this enhancement and inspiring meaning.

As far as actually articulating this, i would think the angle would be talking towards others on the terms that we are power, that we have powers that we've been led to believe we don't have. i suspect such an angle would interest quite a few people; tho i suspect many different approaches would have to be made in order to interest *many* people, as opposed to perhaps only a few we ourselves may influence (due to our comparitively "strange" spiritual approaches).

Thoughts?

Something that has worked for me is to simply say "I don't want to gossip." I say it in a non-judgemental way and make it my will and no one elses.

One of my good friends told me just last week that I inspired her to not gossip so much...WOW was that nice to hear! Especially since we both used to be gossip queens.